I just started reading Caitlin Moran’s How To Be A Woman and I’m already in love with it! Tonight on the way home I read a bit I particularly liked:
l apologize if you don’t quite understand that. Moran speaks British.
Basically what she is saying is something my friend Sam said to me the other day. I was telling him about an ex-friend of mine and it was really hard because I don’t like to speak ill of other women but she has no redeeming qualities. So I was basically left with “We were friends but we’re not anymore because she did some mean things.”
And Sam pointed out that treating a woman like a faberge egg simply because she has a vagina is a lot like treating a woman like a doormat because she has a vagina. They’re both wrong. They both pale in comparison to treating all people like people.
I am in many many ways pro-sisterhood, I just think that refusing to hold people accountable for their faults is like making a racist joke but preceding it with “No offense but-.” It’s not going to cut it.