Bodies, Intimacy, Menstruation

Menstrual Cups and Self-Ed

I would really like for my menstrual cup to be good at catching blood.

It was sold to me as “12 hours, no leaks!” but my experience so far has been a non-stop stain-a-thon. Every once in a while I emerge from the bathroom “This time it’s going to be different. This time I finally figured it out!” but it never seems to stick.

People keep asking me why I’m still trying to make it work after 5 years of constant failure.

Answer number one is simple and true “I really would like my period to be a carbon neutral event. I don’t like constantly buying and throwing away tampons. I need a better solution.”

But the deeper answer is something I didn’t expect.

This month in trying to get the damn thing to work I discovered that my cervix is more conical than the donut shape I always imagined it as.

And you know how in books they say your cervix will “feel like the tip of your nose” [x]

It totally does! It feels exactly like the tip of your nose!

How cool is that?!

So, my menstrual cup might suck at being a menstrual cup, but it’s pretty great at making me think about bodies in a new way. And so for that I’ll be grateful. And that’s even better.

Art, Menstruation

More rupi Love

And let me not forget to mention that the talented and graceful rupi is also the artist behind this

wonderful display of femininity and courage to “demystify the period and make something that is innate ‘normal’ again.”

I will not apologise for not feeding the ego and pride of misogynist society that will have my body in an underwear but not be ok with a small leak when your pages are filled with countless photos/accounts where women (so many who are underage) are objectified, pornified, and treated less than human.

Role model.

Bodies, Menstruation

Kiran Gandhi And Period Shame

Woman Runs London Marathon Without a Tampon, Bleeds Freely to Raise Awareness

I cry.

Don’t ask me why.

When I was in high school I have a vivid memory of sitting on a particular male friends lap and standing up to find a red spot the size of a quarter on his leg. Just conjuring up that memory while sitting here alone in my living room leaves me hot in the face with shame.

Generally I enjoyed my high school experience but that tough learning curve about exactly how long I could leave a tampon in was brutal.

There is nothing like seeing someone move through the world so shame-free concerning something you have so much anxiety about. It makes me want to hug and kiss her entire face.

The really amazing thing is that in the last few years it’s become clearer and clearer that straight guys that are worth their salt don’t really care about periods. God forbid a little blood comes up, it’s always me freaking out and him telling me to relax, it’s not a big deal. It’s amazing what shame can do.

So thanks Kiran Gandhi, my personal hero for the day.


A Conversation With My Uterus, Currently Shedding It’s Lining

Me: *curled up in bed, clutching my stomach* WWWWAAAAAAHHHH!!!

Uterus: *knitting on the couch* What?

Me: Wwwhhhhyyy???

Uterus: Because I can.

Me: But what did I do to you?

Uterus: Well yesterday you did eat chocolate.

Me: Want me to puke it up?

Uterus: Meh, it won’t help.


Uterus: Moaning won’t help either.

Me: What will help? What can I do to make your life easier?

Uterus: Well I can tell you right now that being snarky will not help.

Me: Fantastic. Thrilled to hear it.

Uterus: You’ll just have to wait. You get 27 days a month and I get 1.

Me: You’re mean.

Uterus: *shrugs* Should I be offended?

Me: I hate you.

Uterus: I don’t care.

Me: I hate you.

Uterus: I still don’t care.

Me: I’m going to puke on you.

Uterus: Still really not my problem.


Bodies, Confidence, Sexism

Menstruation Appreciation

I’ve been finding a lot of really cool menstruation art lately, and that’s not something I ever thought I would say.

And it’s really cool.

Even though any guy in his 20’s should be fine with talking about periods I still get mortified by my own, and it’s really cool to find art that does something other than avoid or dance around the whole thing, opting for kool-aid-esque blue liquid and calling the female half of the population dirty.

Something that’s actually

Bodies, Menstruation

Let’s Talk About Menstruation, Baby

So yesterday I talked about this article (assne, period sex, towels, remember?  I’m surprised you came back at all).  And then I came across this.

In honor of International Women’s Day (but really just because I want to) let’s talk about periods!

It got me thinking.  I dont know why men consider periods so gross and boobs so not gross.  They’re equally female, natural, normal.  Every second person in the world has them.  Your mother has them.

(Skip to 7:20) Periods are really only as ‘weird’ as breasts in that women have them and men don’t.

So why all the associated shame and guilt?

We’ve already talked about Gloria Steinem’s If Men Could Menstruate so let’s not go back there.

Instead let’s talk about how not weird menstruation is.  Or let’s just talk about what we do about them.

Menstrual Cup.

What’s a menstrual cup you may be wondering?  Well, thank you for asking.

A cup collects menstrual fluid, instead of absorbing it like a tampon, and is cleaned and reused, with the cup able to last as long as ten years. Menstrual cups have been shown to leak less on average, and they are very comfortable to wear. As well, they have fewer health risks than standard disposable products.

You’re probably thinking ‘ewwww gross.  Reuse!?’

Think about the other things you reuse.  Water bottles?  Sweat bands?  Your toothbrush?

And I’ll bet you don’t boil those between uses.  And that they’re not made of medical grade materials.

A menstrual cup is cheaper, more ecologically friendly, and comfortable.  There’s also less of a risk of TSS and they don’t have bleach or other nasty chemicals in them.  And even on a really heavy day you can keep it in for 12 hours (that’s so many hours)!

When I first heard about them I thought they were just for hippies, but then I looked around and people kept jumping up with ‘I’ve had one for years and it’s amazing!’ and ‘it changed my life!’ and so I opened my mind.

Remember how grossed out you were by tampons when you first discovered them?

The cup also has the benefit of automatically making you more comfortable with your body because you need to figure it out.  That means trial and error.  And yeah, sticking your fingers up your hoo ha.  But it’s yours.  And if anyone should feel comfortable sticking a finger or two up there it should be you.