Tag Archives: Feminism

Who Pays For This

20 Sep

I go on a lot of first dates and there are a few things that come up a lot.

Yes, I’m a feminist blogger who has also won a jello wrestling tournament.

Yes, I frequently let guys pay for things and open doors for me.

The truth is that there’s a whole equation that runs in my head when I’m figuring out what to do with the bill.

Do I like you?

Do you like me?

Do you seem to really want to pay for it?

Do I want you to get what you want?

Do you clearly link paying the tab with your masculinity and will it please me to deny you that?

Have you been a waste of my time?

Do you make more money than me?

Did you offer?

Will you be smug? I hate smug.

Feminist Vs. Egalitarian

1 Sep


I love following the Planned Parenthood tumblr. My family and friends fun of me for enjoying the minutiae of language and terms. For explaining the difference between bi and pan at dinner. For all sorts of made up terms and differences.    

The reason I love words is that they can help you understand an entire group of people, they can help you see the entire world more clearly. Who wouldn’t want that?   

So here is a definition of how to respect and empower other people veiled in a description of third wave feminism.

Adair You To Be Awesome

30 Sep

This is the most heartening thing I’ve ever seen.

Also, I want to point out that in the full news report the founders say “They’re pants for when you wanted to have a ‘lazy day'”

That’s what women say. I’m not having a lounge. I’m having a lazy day. Even when women want to have a little R&R they can’t help but use a negative word to describe how they do it. The words we use are important, their positivity can be important too.

Misandrist For A Moment

3 Aug

I don’t really consider myself a Misandrist within the Feminist community. Men can be useful and pretty and even occasionally think of something smart. I’ve even loved them. Heresy, I know.

But there is one image that makes me want to put on a bunch of Misandry Jewelry and run around screaming and throwing red paint on men.

Oh, it just feels so good.


What If We Treated All Consent Like Society Treats Sexual Consent?

13 Jul

Some really wonderful Everyday Feminism

I Love Amy Schumer

6 May

Today I watched the latest episode of Inside Amy Schumer.

An Episode, any episode, they’re all brilliant.

You know what I love about that show? It’s that it feels like it’s just the contents of her brain, spilled out all over the place, the good, the bad and the ugly. In any given episode there will be some amazing, subversive feminist pieces like this.

Or this

Or this

And there will also be other random stuff she finds funny like this

And her humor includes the gross and scatological.

I don’t love absolutely everything but she’s a person with a broad sense of humor. And I love that she’s allowed to express all of it.

How excited am I to see her movie? Very excited.

Closet Feminists

20 Nov

Recently I’ve become quite close to someone who I’ve started calling a closet feminist. He’s like a young pop star in that he spouts feminist ideals and then in the next breath shuns the F-word. He prefers the dinky ‘humanist’ and says that he doesn’t like the stereotype the label would reflect on him. Apparently he’s afraid that if he uses the word then people will think he’s a dumpy female elementary school teacher. Clearly I disagree. I think he could own the title and be an example of how the word doesn’t imply that stereotype. But I digress.

He doesn’t like the word feminist because apparently it isn’t inclusive enough. Or he doesn’t feel like he owes anyone anything because he doesn’t think being male has been an advantage in his life. Something like that. Digressing. Digressing.

…But what the word “feminist” does do is acknowledge the very long history of the women’s rights movement. I agree with what [Joss Whedon is] saying: It should just be assumed men and women are equally important and equally capable—but it’s not, and it hasn’t been for thousands of years. So, “feminism” and being a “feminist” is an acknowledgement of that history and the culture we’ve lived in for a long time. It’s a reaction to that, but for me, that’s an important acknowledgement to make.

JOSEPH GORDON LEVITT (via carolineeand)

Something I love about the word feminism is that it can encompass so much kyriarchy. It can be a catch all in acknowledging so much privilege.

Having privilege doesn’t make you a bad person. It doesn’t mean you should feel guilty or that you owe anyone anything.

No, let me amend that, it means you owe the world a little bit of attention. Being a citizen of the world means you owe it consideration. You owe it to yourself and the people around you to be aware and sometimes grateful to those who have set you on your journey. It’s not a big debt, it doesn’t reflect poorly, I just think it’s a small thing we can all do.