Doctor Who Like You’ve Never Seen Him Before

Today I heard about a video that I’m so excited about.

And this one seems to have such a great sense of humor about itself and the cannon it comes from. Plus, a bit of hilarity around knowing that it is itself a porn parody. The best use of rule 34 I’ve seen in a while.

And the best news is that apparently you can watch it for free here.

Plus, even John Green loves a good porn parody. Do you think they’ll do any public screenings?

Sanity, Sexuality

The Power Of Labels

Today I watched this video

I knew Deen was coming out with a line of toys (and I have at least one friend who is excited to get one) [UPDATE: review] but when I watched the video I was reminded of something.

In the interview you see lots of posters of him in the store where the signing is being held.  And as the camera flicked past these images I kept thinking how happy he looks in all the posters.  He looks like he has nothing to hide.  Like he’s saying “Hey there world!  I’m me!  Just like this!  Warts and all!  And if you don’t like it, then you can suck it!” and the world was like, “Um, ok, then I guess you’re cool.”

It reminded me of the first time I thought about the word Gay.  I listened to a lot of show tunes and watched a lot of old movies when I was a kid so I remember knowing the definition of gay as happy long before I learned that it also meant homosexual.

And I remember that my first thought was how obvious the word was.  How obviously gay people would describe themselves as happy.  Why wouldn’t they?  They’re people who show their truest selves to the world and are happily in love.  Gay people must have the highest levels of gaiety because they are doing exactly what Deen is doing in those pictures.  They’ve come the cleanest.

The free soul is rare, but you know it when you see it — basically because you feel good, very good, when you are near or with them.

– Charles Bukowski, Tales of Ordinary Madness [x]

I hope one day I can find out what I need to admit to the world in order to be that happy.

Related to this, I started thinking about a concept from Doctor Who.  On the show the main character is called “The Doctor” and at a certain point he turns kind of… evil-ish and he’s told that on other planets, in other languages “Doctor” is a bad word.  It means warrior or murderer or whatever other scary thing he doesn’t want to be.

Sometimes words have meaning before they’re applied to you.  Sometimes you give words meaning when you associate with them.

The word feminist doesn’t mean “A hairy lesbian who wants to cut your balls off” it is a word which happens to encompass parts of me.  I define it with what I do and believe.  It doesn’t define me by your preconceived notions.


Boys, Well, Boys Want Both

This came out a while ago but I just came across it again and I’m pretty sure I haven’t posted it here yet.

What I love is how it completely boggles her mind.  She’s like Doctor Donna.  She sees everything and then must explode.

…because girls want superheros and the boys want superheros and the girls want pink stuff and the girls… and the boys want… and the boys don’t want pink stuff… (gently shaking her head back and forth)

Her Dad corrects her, saying “Boys, well, boys want both…”

But her Dad is wrong.  Boys in the U.S. are taught from a very early age to avoid everything associated with girls.  Being called a “girl” is, in itself, an insult to boys.  And the slurs “sissy” and “fag” are reserved for men who act feminine.  So, no, boys (who have learned the rules of how to be a boy) generally reject anything girly.  [x]

No surprise, considering

“What’s the worst thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now. You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank. Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. I’ve even heard the term ‘mangina.’ Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.”

-Full frontal feminism: a young women’s guide to why feminism matters, By Jessica Valenti

What’s that Doctor Donna?  You like this post?

Thanks Donna!

Abuse, Gender

Instead Of Destroying, Hold Hands

“The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an individual is not successful in emotionally crippling himself, he can count on patriarchal men to enact rituals of power that will assault his self-esteem.”

-Bell Hooks (via cultureofresistance)

“Telling boys and men that they shouldn’t drink regular diet drinks because they’re effeminate, but should instead drink “manly” things like Dr. Pepper Ten and Coke Zero and Pepsi Max, is telling them that there’s a right way to be male and it doesn’t involve anything feminine. That, in turn, tells them that female is less, female is bad, and female is worthy of ridicule. If men and boys are surrounded by ad campaigns that reinforce these ideas, don’t you think they’ll probably think women are less, and bad, and worthy of ridicule?”

~Hey Dr. Pepper, It’s Just Not Funny | SPARK a Movement

but you know what, with all this tearing apart and tearing down,

“There’s a lot of things you need to get across this universe. Warp drive… wormhole refractors… You know the thing you need most of all? You need a hand to hold.”

~The Tenth Doctor, Fear Her

“Part of the mechanics of oppressing people is to pervert them to the extent that they become the instruments of their own oppression.”

– Kumasi, “Crips & Bloods: Made in America

The hardest thing in this world is to live in it.  For men and women, boys and girls.  Hold hands, beautiful hands.


Todays Post Brought To You By…Feelings

Todays post has been postponed due to feelings.

Today feels like

I suggest you go watch the entire 5th series of Doctor Who.

If you don’t have the time then just ‘Vincent and the Doctor’ will do.

The Doctor: Between you and me, in a hundred words, where do you think Van Gogh rates in the history of art?

The Curator: …to me, Van Gogh is the finest painter of them all. Certainly, the most popular, great painter of all time, the most beloved. His command of color the most magnificent. He transformed the pain of his tormented life into ecstatic beauty. Pain is easy to portray, but to use your passion and pain to portray the ecstasy and joy and magnificence of our world…no one had ever done it before. Perhaps, no one ever will again. To my mind, that strange, wild man who roamed the fields of Provence was not only the world’s greatest artist, but also one of the greatest men who ever lived.”

Season 5 Episode 10 “Vincent and The Doctor”

Hope, Man Meat

My Boyfriend Ryan

Alright.  I know I’ve already brought up Ryan Gosling like 20 times in the last month’s worth of posts.  And I’m aware that every guy out there reading this is sitting there thinking “Enough already!  I know you’ll never love me like you love him (or a certain gallifreyan), stop ruining my self-confidence!  You know I’m sensitive about my hair.”

Well I’m here to give you a gift.  A gift in the form of a knowledge bomb.  Yes my boyfriend Ryan is so awesome because he looks photoshopped.  Yes he’s so awesome because his smile is like whoa. But more importantly my boyfriend Ryan Gosling is so perfect because he says things like this.

“Our new year’s eve party.”

I’m glad I made my home with you too Ryan!

So my gift to you, dudes, Be conscious and smart like my boyfriend Ryan.  And like me like my boyfriend Ryan (And if you really want me to love you forever you could have hair like the gallifreyan) and maybe I could want you to be my boyfriend too.


Trust Me, I’m The Doctor

Just watched the Doctor Who x-mass special (and about 24 hours of marathon) after months completely lacking in DW activity so don’t mind me while I freak out for a minute.

When I grow up:

A door in my house will look like

I will have a fish tank that looks like

My kids room will look like

I’m going to be honest—masterpiece! The ultimate bedroomA sciency-wiency workbench! A jungle! A maze! A window disguised as a mirror! A mirror disguised as a window! A selection of torches for midnight feasts and secret reading! Zen garden! Mysterious cupboard! Zone of tranquility! Rubber ball! Dream tank! Exact model of the rest of the housenot quite to scale, apologies! Dolls with comical expressions! The Magna Carta! A football! Pluto! A yellow fort! [x]

The hubby and I will


And when it all goes well we will dance the dunk giraffe

Wish me luck!