Category: Abuse

Abuse, Deviant/Default, Politics

Oy Trump Oy

Female Gazing

I just read this article about Donald Trump treating Megyn Kelly like shit at the debate and I’m fuming. Unfortunately I have absolutely nothing to add to the article, it’s perfect just the way it is.

I know nothing about Megyn Kelly, I heard her name for the first time after the debate had already aired. But are we really surprised that Trump decided he had an issue with the one woman in the room that was, god forbid, questioning him? Did no one else see that coming when they turned on the TV?

The article breaks down Trump’s answer into 5 main components, each designed to dismiss the true nature of the question.

Step 1: Claim that the complaint is an exaggeration in order to imply that the complainant can’t be trusted

Step 2: Dismiss demands for respect and equality as mere “political correctness”

Step 3: Insist that this complaint is too minor to bother with when there are more important things to worry about

Step 4: Say it was just “fun”

Step 5: Pretend the complaint is really just about personal animosity [x]

This is a perfect recipe for dismissing valid claims and it works perfectly all across the country every day.

All I can say is be vigilant. Now that you know how the opposition plays you can have a more secure defense.

Abuse, Dating

Warning Me Isn’t Permission To Hurt Me

Female Gazing

In the “Inside the episode” of girls S04/Ep 3 Lena Dunham says something I love.

“Desi does a thing that makes me crazier than almost anything which is to say ‘its ok that I’m hurting you because I warned you I would hurt you’.”

When people allow you into their lives, you treat that invitation with respect.

Conversely, learn to drop people who are sucking the life out of you.

Abuse, Media

50 Shades of Attempting to Pass Abuse Off as Romance

Female Gazing

My honest to god biggest fear of 50 Shades of Grey is not that people will watch it, because people will, but that abusers will use it to brainwash their victims more than they already do. That more women will be left wondering why this isn’t making them happy when it’s supposed to. And more women will be hurt in worse ways because “this is what everyone else wants.” [x]

 

 

Abuse, Consent, Relationships, Sex

Am I Arrogant Or Am I Just Winning?

Female Gazing

I’m doing a social experiment called ‘agreeing with boys when they compliment you’.

the results:

It’s like men fear that if I can love and appreciate myself then I won’t need them. They should pray for that. They should hope that I love and appreciate myself enough so that I never need them, I want them.

The fact that a woman who appreciates herself and loves every inch of her body and her mind is perceived as arrogant and vain whereas a woman who struggles with self esteem issues is more or less the norm and seen as modest clearly shows how society is trying to belittle woman and trick them into thinking they somehow have to feel inadequate all the time. [x]

Media, Rape, Sanity, Self-Care, Sex

Friday Against Anti-Feminism

Female Gazing

The other day I got in a bit of a fight on facebook (I know, why do I do this to myself?) about Women Against Feminism.

And truly, I don’t want to spend a lot of time talking about this because doing so makes me sad and angry. But a theme I keep finding on their tumblr is “I don’t need feminism because there is no rape culture,” or “men respect me.”

Men respect you?

And there are women who retweeted that comment. And you want to tell me there is no rape culture?