A good male friend of mine was talking about kink the other day and it took until now for me to realize what bothered me about what he said.
He told me that he was into getting caught. Fine.
He liked having sex in somewhat public places, threesomes, things where other people might see her.
But never with his girlfriend.
Only with women he didn’t care much about.
Women he didn’t care to care about.
Women he could choose to not care about because they were women who weren’t his.
I guess that’s what he meant when he called himself a Masculinist.