After the incident my ride showed up and I hopped in the car. No need to note that the driver of said getaway car was my mother. Yes, I’m an adult who’s mother picked her up from her date. Nonetheless.
My mom pulls up, I give him a quick hug and say ‘nice to meet you’ and run around to the passenger side door. As I’m crossing in front of the car he yells out “So can I call you sometime?” to which I shrug and say ‘sure.’ Anyone who has ever heard of the terms ‘body language’ or ‘inflection’ knows I meant ‘no’.
Here’s the question: Did I do the wrong thing?
Was the correct answer “No”?
I’m polling the audience here and I’d really like your feedback.
I’ve done that in the past. A guy asked if he could call me and I just said “No, I don’t think that’s necessary.” And it didn’t go over too poorly. He didn’t get angry or lash out or anything (and, yes, that is the main concern).
I told this story at a party last night, and posed this question and most of the girls in the room said that they would do what I did. They would say he could call and then proceed to ignore him. But I feel like there has to be a better way. And I’ve heard from a lot of guys who say they would have preferred to hear “no” and not waste their time.
So what should we do about this? What is the right answer?