The only time I’ve ever had to use this kind of manual to my own emotions was in the year after I lost my dad. In the beginning every feeling I felt seemed so overwhelming. Guilt, sadness, anger. Whichever one was around took over my entire brain and body. I became the guilt, I was walking sadness, I was the embodiment of anger.
Recently a friend of mine lost her father and I called her to talk about it. She described her feelings of guilt and it was like having a phone call with my past self. I didn’t have it written down at the time but the way I finally learned to deal with my emotions was basically discovering this flow. Like it’s yoga.
Back bend, emotion in.
Forward fold, notice the emotion.
Half up, feel the emotion.
Forward fold, do you know why the emotion?
Plank, name the emotion.
Upward facing dog, accept the emotion.
Down dog, emotion out.
Like a wave. In and out.
Otherwise living in each emotion, letting them consume you, well; they’ll consume you.