Kill All The Spiders

30 Dec

Amazing article over at The Stranger. Street harassment is never your fault but here are a few options to consider when they’re enjoying making you feel cornered and helpless. Scare him.

You won’t always feel safe talking back to a harasser and you shouldn’t feel guilty about backing out of a situation instead of barreling into it if that is what feels right. But harassers are counting on your vulnerability and kindness, your willingness to keep things polite at all costs even when they’ve broken that social code first.

So maybe try rejecting the need to do that.

And if all else fails:

Ladies, as much as we all love scathing comebacks, chances are you’re not always going to be prepared with the perfect response while being harassed. But here’s something you can practice saying in front of a mirror: “Stop harassing me.” It’s simple, it’s straightforward, and it signals everyone within earshot—including your harasser—that you’re uncomfortable and you need help. And if the harassment doesn’t stop or you feel like you’re in any immediate danger, call 911 immediately.

And guys: We don’t want to hear any horseshit victim-blaming about women these days not knowing a compliment when it jumps out at them from a dark alley. Here’s a good litmus test for compliments: Would you say it to your mother or niece? No? Then don’t scream it at the woman who’s just trying to catch the number 8 bus. And if you find yourselves justifying any of the behaviors mentioned above, practice saying this in front of a mirror: “I’m a sad, delusional trap-door spider who repulses women with my words and actions.” And then knock it the fuck off. [x]

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