Today I was having a discussion with a new friend about how there’s a guy who seems to be trying to impress me with how funny he can be.
I read her our text conversation and she laughed out loud and said “You’re so much funnier than he is!”
And based on the very little I know about this man (less than a dozen text messages), it’s true. I am funnier than he is.
And it reminded me of a bar I went to last summer. Or more specifically a drunk ‘comedian’ I met at that bar.
My friend was dating a male model at the time and I enjoyed hanging out with her and watching her cuteness grow exponentially when adjacent to his beautifulness so I went. They told me they were bringing one of his friends. This friend was apparently tall, Jewish and funny. What’s not to love?
This guy may have been a Jew but he was certainly neither tall nor even moderately funny. What he was, was drunk. Very drunk. And I’m sure his drunkenness made him even less funny than I’m sure he naturally is.
And it must be said that knowing a funny man was my setup, I brought my funnybone along too. And this is what I realized that night.
You don’t have to be the funniest guy in the room for me to like you. I’ve had plenty of crushes on guys who are quiet in groups. As long as you make me laugh when we’re alone, then I don’t mind if I have to be the entertaining half of this couple at dinner parties.
I also wouldn’t mind being with the funniest guy in the room. That would be fun too I’m sure.
The one thing I do know I couldn’t live with is a guy who resented the fact that I was funnier than he was, who clearly felt that he was diminished by my having excellent (if only occasionally so) vocabulary.
I’ve heard it said that men want a woman with a good sense of humor (someone who laughs at his jokes) and women want a man with a good sense of humor (someone who makes her laugh). This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard and I hate it.
If you don’t laugh at what I find funny then I don’t want to sleep with you. And if you additionally are embarrassed by having a girlfriend who does funny things that men are commended for on a daily basis then you are dismissed.