Today I found something that inspired me to write for the first time in a while.
Sometimes there are people in your life who stop being positive forces and start being negative forces. There is someone in my life who once brought me a lot of joy and who I considered a very close friend. This person made me feel special and smart and like I was a really important friend. And recently I’ve found that all those good feelings are gone.
And so I’ve decided to give myself permission to put some distance between us. It doesn’t make me a selfish person or a bad friend. It’s just necessary because what we have right now isn’t functioning. It’s broken.
Dan Savage says that when you end a relationship you need to “cut it off and cauterize” before you can be friends with your ex. This goes hand in hand with the ‘you break up because it’s broken’ theory which I thoroughly believe.
This person (or gangrene hand) is causing you problems, messing up the rest of your life. If you keep it you’ll die. But if you really want to have a relationship with it you need to cut it off, go to therapy for a while, and then once you’ve come to terms with your armlessness steal it back from the biohazard lab and put it in a jar on your fireplace.
Isn’t that what you read in your Anatomy Coloring Book?