Alright, woman against feminism, lets take a look at your argument here.
First off, I’m going to do you a favor and excuse your grammar, because that would be a low blow. Maybe you are multiple people. Maybe you have a split personality disorder. I don’t know your life, I don’t know your choices. You (plural) love to cook for your men (plural) in your singular house. That sounds like a lot of dishes to me but hey, it’s your ruined manicure, not mine.
You believe that you don’t need feminism because you’d rather be a homemaker. Ok, I see your logic.
The current status quo is more than happy to let you continue languishing at the stove and sink, barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.
But I must ask, do you have any interest in voting? It’s great that you’ve found something you like to do (cooking and cleaning for all your men) but what if one day you get fired from that job and have to find a new one. Or perhaps there isn’t enough money coming in and you are forced to find employment outside your home. Perhaps you’d like, say, the ability to be hired at a job you’d enjoy only slightly less. Perhaps feminism could help you out there by ensuring you’re not unfairly discriminated against, so you can land a job. Or by ensuring that you’ll be paid as much as your male counterparts. Or simply by elevating the social status of your housekeeping (yes, that is a part of feminism) so that when you do have to get this hypothetical job the potential employer sees your past at home as valuable.
So really your placard should read “I need feminism because my society sees me as a second class citizen for making life choices based on my desires while having a vagina.”
Point number two: Enjoying cooking and cleaning makes you more of a #TrueWomen than me? You consider yourself a woman and I consider myself a woman. That’s all it takes to be a woman. I do not see your leap in logic there.
When I was a kid my mom had a friend that always wanted “Better”. His microwave broke? Time to get the next size up. More features, more perks, more digital, more fancy. You know; “Better.”
At my house our oven broke and we got one the same size because a bigger one is actually an inconvenience. The iron broke and we got a smaller one because it was better at sleeves. But we had specific priorities. The oven had to be a specific height so dad didn’t have to lean over. We didn’t need the newest model, just the one that was wall mountable and the right width.
We got one that fit our lives. We were setting our own standards. What is important to me? What am I looking for from this? What are my priorities? Self-cleaning? Portable? Wireless?
It’s like how you don’t just go to the store and buy the biggest vibrator you can find. You figure out if what you want first. Is it a vibrator or a dildo? then you figure out what you’re looking for from it; intense rumbles or a big enough handle to rock it back and forth? Does the handle need to be comfortable from your vantage point or your partners? That’s why there are so freaking many options.
When I tell people I write a feminist blog sometimes they tell me something crazy; that some women just want to be mothers and I’m a big meanie for trying to dissuade them.
Hilarious. Quite the contrary. I don’t want everyone to run out and try to get the same life I want. That would be entirely too much competition. I want people to use their own standards and figure out their priorities and then go after the things they want. If that’s kids then great, if it’s presidency then great.
My feminism is about all people having access to the careers and options that make them happy regardless of their sex, gender, race, class, etc.
That’s why mandatory maternity leave for CEO’s is just as important as respecting the rights of caregivers.
I believe in a feminism that encourages all people to make the decisions and chase the dreams they find within themselves. We need to remember that housework is just as important as bread winning. As long as we consider child rearing petty ‘women’s work’, the patriarchy is winning. And we can’t have that now can we?
I love a good takedown. Australian Prime Minister Julia Gillard attacks Misogynist Tony Abbott for 15 straight minutes after he calls for the resignation of the Australian Weiner of the day Peter Slipper.
As Maddow said on her blog ‘For everyone Stateside who’s fed up with “legitimate rape,” Governor Ultrasound and the seemingly nonstop assault on women’s rights, it wasn’t nearly long enough.’
Also, if she is any kind of witch at all, Gillard is Glinda at her absolute finest.
In the wake of the election I keep hearing and saying the following: “It’s not that I’m excited Obama won, it’s that I’m relieved.”
In 2008 Barack Obama ran on the promise of Hope and Change. And while he got the ball rolling on health insurance he hasn’t been able to keep all his promises.
In Anne Helen Petersen’s hilarious recounting of Reagan’s acting career she says this about the President.
Obama rode the energy of his star machine into office, but failed to manifest the central tenant of that image — hope — on a daily basis. He concerned himself with governing: with the long-term, thoroughly unsexy reforms that would engender hope as opposed to simply paying lip service to it. It’s been a disappointment to a lot of people — many of whom got off the Bush Star Train to hop on Obama’s. Obama may always be a mediocre star, but he might yet be a great president.
When Obama won in 2008 I was excited, but excitement wears off. This time around I’m not excited. This time around all I can think of is “Good, maybe I won’t have to live in the most embarrassing country on earth. Good, maybe I won’t be ashamed. Good, there might still be hope.”
I don’t think this is how he expected to come through on that promise but when you tally up his promises fulfilled and promises broken today we can check that one off.
Mitt Romney says Americans who don’t pay income tax will never vote for him. But, eight of the top 10 states with the highest number of non-payers tend to vote Republican.http://theatln.tc/QhxL9g
I like show tunes. I grew up watching and listening to and singing along with musicals. Mom and I used to sing 1776 in the car on trips and there was a line on the cast recording that always made us laugh.
John Dickinson: Mr. Hancock, you’re a man of property, one of us. Why don’t you join us in our minuet? Why do you persist on dancing with John Adams? Good Lord, sir, you don’t even like him!
Hancock: That is true, he annoys me quite a lot, but still I’d rather trot to Mr. Adams’ new gavotte
John Dickinson: But why? For personal glory, for a place in history? Be careful, sir, history will brand him and his followers as traitors.
Hancock: Traitors, Mr. Dickinson? To what? The British crown, or the British half-crown? Fortunately there are not enough men of property in America to dictate policy
John Dickinson: Perhaps not. But don’t forget that most men without property would rather protect the possibility of becoming rich, than face the reality of being poor. [x]
Seriously, please take a minute right now and imagine 10-year-old me speaking along with the recording in my best fake british accent.
To be honest I still don’t entirely know what’s going on in the first part but that last line always made me smirk.
I think it’s less about hypocrisy so much as a complete lack of self-awareness. Sometimes people are stupid.
The latest new blog on my radar is hunterrileysexeducation.com which just ran a fantastic post about the coming election in November.
The morals to be garnered here are that
- Porn stars aren’t running for office so they have no reason to coat their opinions in
- Porn stars are smarter than most people give them credit for.
- Maybe we should just elect a porn star?
Jenna Jameson (probably not my first pick for office but at least she’s got the honesty thing. That’s already better than Romney):
Jameson was a democrat earlier in her porn career, but said now that she has more money, her political attitudes have changed.
“When you’re rich, you want a Republican in office,” she told a reporter from a CBS affiliate, according to a report from The Daily Beast.
The New Yorker reported on the press conference she held to further explain her endorsement. After researching Romney’s career at Bain Capital, she said,“There’s nothing more American, I think, than screwing people you don’t know for money.”
The innuendos continued with Jameson saying, “I respect someone who opens their mouth without thinking.” [x]
Kayden Kross (who even A Dude and I think are nifty):
“I’m voting for Obama because he inhales when he smokes, he supports gay marriage, because he follows me on Twitter, because he has managed to push a lot through despite being mostly hogtied by partisan bullshit, because his agendas are good for the majority of people and not just the majority of a voting base—which is also being hogtied—and because when I voted for him the first time I didn’t expect him to wave a magic wand and fix everything overnight. We all know that is impossible, like Republican empathy and Romney’s tax records.” [x]
Kimberly Kane (who wins the paying-attention-to-women’s-issues award):
“I am a supporter of Obama all the way. His views on women’s issues, health care, and gay rights are totally in line with mine. Not to mention he killed Osama bin Laden!” [x]
Jessica Drake (easily my favorite. Maybe she should have this scrolling at the bottom of all her videos. That’s one way to exact change):
“I don’t often volunteer my political opinion, but in the past few days I’ve been asked many times, so I’ll say this—there are many reasons to support President Obama’s campaign for reelection. When he first took office, one of his first acts as commander in chief was to sign the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act into law. This important bill has served to break down wage-discrimination barriers for women and eradicate workplace inequality on many levels. Economically, he has pushed for New Deal-style initiatives geared to create jobs and get Americans working. He has eliminated “don’t ask, don’t tell,” defended LGBT rights and officially supported the rights of same-sex couples to marry. I am pleased with what he has done so far, and I think it’s important to remember that our nation did not arrive at its current condition overnight—it will take some time to truly mend and heal, and I am proud to endorse Obama as the best person to facilitate the necessary changes.” [x]
Joanna Angel (who simply wins at life because she’s dating our beloved James Deen)(Also, who knew that wikiporno.org was a thing?):
“I always vote Democratic, regardless of whether I think the candidates suck or not. This doesn’t necessarily mean I’m endorsing anyone. This particular election is a little depressing. I don’t have much faith in either candidate at this point. I am going to vote Democratic regardless. It’s the lesser of two evils, and I can’t believe I am saying that because I used to hate when people said that!” [x]
Dana DeArmond (priorities):
“I voted for Barack last time. I still have a crush on Barack and on Michelle. I actually think I have romantic feelings for Michelle. I wish they wanted to take me on a date.” [x]
Penny Pax (I love smart people! Can she replace Paul Ryan?):
“I’ll be voting for Obama again this election. I believe in national health care and he is the one guy to finally get that on track. I am also a firm believer that no one should have to pay for any preventive care, like mammograms or other cancer screening services. So many other countries are striving with the same healthcare system, so why not America, too?” [x]