I love this trend of political statement ‘makeup tutorials.’
Megan MacKay has a few really good ones like this one about cultural appropriator extraordinaire Urban Outfitters.
This one about the slut shaming Hobby Lobby decision.
I want to be her friend.
Michelle Fan has also been doing great ones for a while, like this one about religious insanitist Michele Bachmann.
And this one about abuse ignoring Joe Paterno.
And of course, one of my favorites, Anna Akana’s ‘daily’ routine.
Everyone Is Gay is an organization that makes videos, answers questions, and visits schools (elementary and up) talking about sexuality, parents, identity and whatever else you want to ask about.
They spew such simple statements as
“Your parents may feel uncomfortable until they feel comfortable.”
“Don’t be a jerk”
Like I always say Keep It Simple, Stupid.
This is probably one of my favorite episodes so far. I love that they make discoveries while shooting. I love that they approach things differently and have differing levels of comfort with statements and activities, and still find their way back to agreeing with each other through problem solving. And they solve all problems with words. Never do they say, if you don’t like what your partner is doing blink at them in morse code until they figure it out, ahem, Cosmo.
So here is the playlist that I listened to for an hour and a half yesterday as I cleaned the house.
And did I mention they lip sync too? What more could you want?
Just a friendly reminder that if you’re a woman and your reason is “I like it and I do what I like” then you’re secretly a feminist and have the full backing of this feminist.
This morning I got a frantic call from a friend of mine who has two precocious and wonderful daughters aged 3 and 5. Her husband works a normal 9-5 job and she’s a freelancer. And when asked what mommy does the girls reply “Yoga.”
So she asked me for advice. “How do I show my girls that I work? I’m really upset and offended by the fact that they don’t get that.”
So here are my tips for her specific case.
- As freelancers we often say things like “I’m at the armory 6-11 today and the school 9-4 tomorrow.” In front of the kids let it be “I’m at work 6-11 today and again 9-4 tomorrow.” Let them ask you why you don’t work regular hours. When Dad works he just calls it work. You can too, no qualifiers needed. “Where is Mommy?” “She’s at work.”
- Define what it is to work. Going to an office is clearly work but dancing is something they do for fun, make it clear that when you do it it’s difficult and took training and makes money, which qualifies it as work. Tell them you’re exhausted from it and that you’re glad to come home and see them after working so hard.
- Every day your kids interact with people who they don’t know are getting paid to stay with them, most of them women. Working with kids is hard work, maybe your kids should see you paying the babysitter and asking her how work was today. Let the kids know what kind of training makes your babysitter or teacher qualified and what that means as far as payscale.
- Introduce them to other women who work. I’m a big believer that as soon as kids can form complete sentences they can be spending time with your friends. Ask your female friend how work is going and to explain what they do, what kind of hours they work, are the freelancers too, what kind of lifestyle does working that job afford them? Does it mean they tour or travel a lot?
- Why do you like your job and why do you dislike it? Tell them why it’s stressful but also important to go.
- Ask them what kind of career they’d like when they grow up. And be very clear that princess is not an option and why.
Last night I went out to a bar and ended up dancing with some girls I met through work. They’re really lovely and we had a great time.
I’m a person who… tends to make anyone nearby look shy by comparison. Last night that thing happened that always happens. One of these women said she wanted to dance. I said, “Great, let’s go” and stood up. She got all flustered, “Oh, I can’t. You can. There are just so many people.”
I found us a clear spot to dance where we weren’t going to get knocked over or drinks spilled on us, I put our bags in a safe zone and then we started dancing with each other, jumping up and down singing dumb 90’s songs and being utterly ridiculous. And my favorite thing happened. By sheer force of happiness we started a big dance circle. I moved some tables out of the way and we ended up in a game of limbo with some guys nearby.
My new friends looked so beautiful and happy and comfortable. I know I’m an extreme extrovert and sometimes I have to stop myself from forcing my introverted friends to do things they don’t want to do. But when I see people I care about getting to have fun doing something they wouldn’t normally push themselves to do, it is my absolute favorite thing in the world.
I hope there are some other people (in addition to myself) who think this is the best thing ever.
Now that I’ve subscribed to Vagenda Magazine’s twitter I can tell you how much I’m in love with them.
The best part is that most of these “stories” could be retitled “Woman leaves house, doesn’t care if you want to have sex with her.” Which basically describes the lives of every woman I know.
And that feels damn good.